Updated: Nov 12, 2020
It's Q and A time! In this month's Q and A we talk about getting a little revenge on your ex online! We've all seen other people's and sometimes our own relationship drama playing out on social media platforms, but how far is too far when dishing the dirt on your current/ex partner? Or what if you see other people dishing the dirt on him? It's instinctive to protect your relationship and have his back, but when you step back from all the emotion you might realise that usually where there's smoke... there's fire.
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We explore the potential repercussions of having your sweet revenge by expressing yourself online, turns out posting someone else's nudes online really is a terrible idea! We wouldn't recommend stooping to their level in the heat of the moment, and inadvertently making yourself a cyber bully or criminal. You really never know what you might provoke someone to post about you in retaliation, and once all of that is out there, it's not coming back. You also don’t know who you might be and where you'll end up in the future, so it's best to keep your digital footprint as clean as possible - you don’t want to end up on that list of celebrities and politicians apologising for Tweets they posted when they were going through puberty.
We also touch upon best friends becoming friends with benefits. Now, we've talked about FWB in season 1, but this one is a little more complex. One of our lovely listeners has found herself in a situation where she's confessed her feelings to a friend and he's stated he doesn't feel the same way. Regardless, they're now involved in a FWB arrangement and she wants to stop but doesn't know how to do so without losing the friendship. It's an easy scenario to judge but we all know that those love goggles can really blind you! Can she really stop the sex and keep a healthy friendship, or does it all have to go?
Lastly we go into a topic that's very little known outside some specific African cultures, labia elongation. Yes, in this day and age, this is still widely practised in Zimbabwe. We describe what the process is for this and talk about how women are widely expected to physically alter themselves to meet the sexual needs of a man. Is labia elongation a form of female genital mutilation (FGM), and why has it been idealised by our African culture? As extreme as this sounds, this idea of women altering themselves for a man is globally accepted and encouraged, no wonder it manifests in such extremes - as much as it seems like a problem for the minority of women in the world, it's really just at an extreme end of a long scale which most women fall on.
As always with our Q and A’s it’s a wide range of topics and we want to hear your opinions on them – some have been light and some are naturally quite heavy topics to tread on. If you or anyone you know has been affected by FGM then please contact the NSPCC’s FGM helpline on 0800 028 3550. We’re here to support and keep each other safe and happy as women.
We really want to hear your experiences and opinions on any of these topics, and always feel free to send us any Q and A’s – we might be answering them in the next few episodes!